Data, A Love Story

Data, A Love Story

How I Gamed Online Dating to Meet My Match

Book - 2013
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A lively, thought-provoking memoir about how one woman "gamed" online dating sites like JDate, OKCupid and eHarmony - and met her eventual husband.

After yet another online dating disaster, Amy Webb was about to cancel her JDate membership when an epiphany struck: It wasn't that her standards were too high, as women are often told, but that she wasn't evaluating the right data in suitors' profiles. That night Webb, an award-winning journalist and digital-strategy expert, made a detailed, exhaustive list of what she did and didn't want in a mate. The result: seventy-two requirements ranging from the expected (smart, funny) to the super-specific (likes selected musicals: Chess, Les Misérables. Not Cats. Must not like Cats!).

Next she turned to her own profile. In order to craft the most compelling online presentation, she needed to assess the competition--so she signed on to JDate again, this time as a man. Using the same gift for data strategy that made her company the top in its field, she found the key words that were digital man magnets, analyzed photos, and studied the timing of women's messages, then adjusted her (female) profile to make the most of that intel.

Then began the deluge--dozens of men wanted to meet her, men who actually met her requirements. Among them: her future husband, now the father of her child.

Forty million people date online each year. Most don't find true love. Thanks to Data, a Love Story , their odds just got a whole lot better.

Publisher: New York : Dutton, c2013
ISBN: 9780525953807
Branch Call Number: 301.41 W381d2
Characteristics: viii, 296 p. : ill. ; 24 cm


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Sep 24, 2016

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Sep 21, 2016

This was incredibly fast read. I wouldn't say it actually gave great advice. I had a couple of complaints about this book. 1) Even though the book was only published in 2013, it's out of date. The author met her husband in 2005. It's 10 years later. Things have drastically changed in the online world. 2) She and her husband are both Gen Xers. Her expectations at age 30 are not what is out there today. Dating in your 30s today isn't easy and it's not for the faint of heart. 3) She was seriously unethical in her approach to revamping her profile. It's one thing to look at another woman's profile, it's another to do what she did. Besides, any moron could see that her profile was problematic. 4) She makes the reader think that her system is foolproof. She got lucky and met her husband almost right out of the gate. That's not reality, that's just dumb luck. Plus, they were both on JDate. That alone narrows the playing field considerably.

Apr 07, 2016

I liked this book. Very analytical way to find a partner but it seemed to work. Good reading in conjunction with Ansari's Modern Romance.

Sep 02, 2014

This is a great book. The author is so personable, transparent, and honest! She doesn't sugarcoat some of the painful realities of dating, it is practical advice and absolutely hilarious when she describes some of her self imposed ridiculousness. Good read, highly recommended!

May 07, 2014

It is a really cool experience ! .. I enjoyed reading it , and I love the details she gave .. It is a novel/dating guides for GEEKS and those who are picky partners ..
If in doubt , learn in brief about her experience here :

Mar 03, 2014

This book is a criminal waste of paper. There are only a few pages at the end where the author tells you how to go about online dating. And even those comments are woefully inadequate.


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Sep 24, 2016

The other sad truth is that women with curly hair are at a distinct disadvantage online and in the real world. I have no idea whether men prefer blondes, but I can say definitively that most men prefer women with healthy, long, straight hair. It can have body and bounce, but curls tend to be an obstacle. If you have curls and feel comfortable and look good straightening your hair, give that a try. If you're like me and like your curls the way they are, find a descent set of products and a good stylist who can defrizz you.


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